A couple of days ago my father-in-law was taken to the hospital for a mild heart attack.  While that is bad enough I wish that was the worst.   His abdomen was very swollen like an ethiopian.  Well after running several test they have determined that his liver only has 10% left!   About 3 years ago he was told that he had psoriasis of the liver (mild case).   He is a BIG drinker.   He quit for a while then started again.   My husband pleaded with him to stop but he didn't listen.   He used the excuse "I got to die sometime might as well be doing something I like.   He is only 56.   I know that was the addict in him saying those things.   Though if he would have quit his liver would be fine, it would have regenerated and healed.  Anyway his boby has been taking on fluid and therefore put more pressure on his heart causing the heart attack. Other than that his heart is healthy.  There is new medicine that they are going to try that makes your liver regenerate faster. They said that if this does not work he won't make it out of the hospital. 

My husband is understandably upset by this although realizes he brought it on hisself. Which I think it is making it harded to deal with cause of the mix of emotions anger/sadness/helpnesses.

It makes it a little harder to sympathize with my dh for me.  I just have to keep reminding myself that it is still his father no matter what!  His dad is a great person when he is not drinking.

Please all of you pray for him!  Maybe if he makes it through this it will change his life around.   If not please pray for my husband to deal with this.  I think he feels quilty about not being able to stop him and angry that he didn't stop.

I am so sorry to hear about your father in law.  I hope you husband is ok.  I shall keep them in my prayers.

Sorry to hear about your FIL.  Death is hard to deal with no matter how you lose a loved one. My prayers will be with all of you.

So sorry to hear about your FIH problems. I will keep your family in my prayers. 

Hey Sweetie.  I know how difficult all the mixed feelings can be.  My brother-in-law died 2 years ago at the age of only 54.  What a shock - a massive heart attack in the middle of the night.  I lost both of my parents 14 months apart when I was only 26 (felt more like 18) and I felt orphaned.  Lost of family is just the hardest thing to deal with.  Your fil, dh & you are all in my prayers.  God is always there, sometimes it's just hard to be open to his comfort when we're feeling so much pain. God bless...

I just wanted to give a quick update. My fil is home and doing ok. I still feel like it is only a matter of time. He looks so frail and has lost losts of weight. They gave him 6 months to a year. Hopefully this time will give my dh a little time to prepare and not have him gone suddenly. Not that it won't still be hard.

Death is hard no matter how much you think you are prepared for it. We knew mom wasn't going to make it but still it didn't make it any easier.

I will continue to keep you all in my prayers.

Thanks so much for all the comments and prayers!  That is so true Art, I started out here because of sweeping but I am now hooked on the forums just as much because of the people.