What happened to the good ol days when a kid would say meet me in the parking lot after school. you would fight and it would be over. well, my 11 yr old daughter is being bullied by this girl in her class who has threatened to kill her now, normally I wouldnt be to worried but now days with kids killing other kids in worried. My parenting style leans more towards roseanne connor than june cleaver so my intial reaction might not be appropriate.  I have spoken to the teacher and the first words out of her mouth were " you wouldnt think to look at this girl that should would do something like this" oh, I get it. she has been in the same school since kindergarten and shes cute and blonde and she couldnt be a little brat. so, whats gonna happen is if and when it comes to blows they are gonna look at my daughter,the new kid, and say it has to be her fault. she is a good girl, a little rough around the edges, but so what. I love the fact that shes not a follower. but this situation is gonna get ugly. and im not sure what to say to her. I have been telling her just to blow it off but thats not working. Im paranoid and neurotic so of couse im thinking this girl is gonna push my kid down the stairs or something. This is driving me crazy I just want to go up there and tell them off. but I cant. Im trying really hard to control myself. any advice on what to tell my daughter. and how to calm myself down. I idle at ticked off so its difficult.

Does the school have a counselor?  If so, maybe getting that individual involved would help.  Another possible suggestion, call Brat's mother and say something like, "I am concerned because our daughters don't seem to be getting along well together and MyChild is upset.  It would be great if all four of us could sit down and talk about what we can do to make everyone more comfortable."  It's possible that Brat is giving MyChild a hard time because she feels threatened by MyChild, whom Brat may perceive as smarter or more popular.  If you can get everyone talking, at least you'll have a better idea of what's going on, and where you stand.  Not an easy situation for you - best of luck.

:smt009 Oh my! You have every right to be upset. Gosweepwin's advise is a great way to handle it. I of course believe that since the teacher dropped the ball you need to contact the pricipal as soon as possible. Most schools now days have a no bully tolerance, not to mention the threatening of death. If the principal does nothing you need to contact a school board member.  DON'T WAIT! You and your daughter need to feel she is safe at school. Shame on the teacher. :smt018

thanks everyone. I will try the cousnelor. and the prinicpal. And continue to tell my daughter just to blow it off. but watch her back. This town has a population of 4000. so its not so easy to fit in if you havent lived here your whole life. I just want her to be safe and be able to learn without distractions. Maybe this girl will slip up and do or say something in ear shot of the teacher. I dont want the girl to be suspended or anything like that I just want her to leave my kid alone.  Thanks again. Reading your post calmed me down. I can do this. I can handle this without blowing up. good luck everyone.  oh, tigercheryl shes the oldest of my three and the one I never really thought would have this problem.

Thanks tammy. :smt001 That is so sweet. I get the feeling im going to be doing that. :smt001 sorry about your son. that must have been awful for you and your family. I went out and bought my daughter a cell phone just in case. I want her to be able to call me if she is in trouble or scared or whatever. thanks again for offering to listen. It is really appreciated.

Thanks for asking. She is doing better. We spoke to the counsler, the principal, everyone. She is being watched inbetween classes in the hallway and such to make sure nothing happens. The girl hasnt said she is gonna kill her again. I dont know if they talked to her or what but she has backed off. They should take this kind of stuff very seriously now days. I will be happy when school is out. wait a minute did I just say that. :smt003 It will be hard having all three home all day but at least I will know they are safe. thanks again.