probably the age but I think you will find a lot of men like this, men and women have different outlooks on things and it is finding what they are and what they are not and accepting that they will not change unless something changes there perception.  

Im sorry tiff. Husband can be a little hard to take sometimes.  wives also. I have noticed that if I get a tone, or sound like im nagging my husband just tunes me out. They are good at that.  Maybe try talking to him a different way. It may not sound like nagging to you or me but to a man it probably does.  I hope you can get him to listen and understand you need things to.

Him saying he is sorry is a big deal.  Maybe you should find something you could do. everyone needs time apart from each other. they need their own "thing". Maybe you can make friends with some of the mothers from your daughters soccer team.

Hey Tiff, sorry you had a bad night.  ll1 is soooooooo right (trust him, he's a guy)  It's just the age.  People, both men and women are just simply are who they are.  It sounds like he is a bit selfish but you know what, I like to go out with the girls too every once in a while.  Work gets to draining and cooking dinner, doing homework, doing the carpool.  You get my drift.  Just find your own thing and do it.  He may even join you.  Just give it some time and who knows what may happen.  Do not sit at home though.  I did that for seventeen years and guess what, it didn't work.  Go have some fun.   

I'd like to sell mine, but I would really have to pay someone to take him away.  Seriously, I have been through a tough couple of weeks with family issues and hubby has been home a grand total of 10 hours.  All of which he has slept or argued with me. 

Want to trade?      

I feel your pain!

Its kinda funny. All my friends and I talk and its like we are married to the same man. Are they all alike?  now men don't take that as a slam.  My husband can be like that. either working, sleeping or wanting to argue. well, maybe not argue. He is to passive aggressive for that.  I tell him he likes to start a fire and watch it burn out of control. the fire would be me. Its the red hair. I have such a temper. They know how to push buttons. Tiff I hope today goes better for ya. and wolfie I understand completely. Men can be a little insensitive.   

  I personally do not feel that you playing games and making up stories to tell your spouse will help a build trust in a relationship. Telling lies about your whereabouts can only lead to trouble. I do agree that you shouldn't appear too needy towards him.

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Well I don't have that problem and I guess I'm lucky. I have been blessed with a wonderful spouse. I've had many health issues this year and he has stood beside every day helping me when needed on my worse days. He has made time to go to doctor visits with me and helped me with cooking and cleaning and pretty much whatever I ask him to help me with on my bad days.

The only day he's not around much is on Sundays and that is because he goes next door to spend time with his parents and brother and I encourage him to spend as much time with them as he possibly can because I know what it's like to not have your parents to visit anymore. I miss mine so much since they both passed away.

We both make the time to fit in some me time alone his is hunting and mine is reading or working on a craft project. But when we get ready to socialize we have other married couples that we socialize with together. Neither of us have single buddies that we hang out with separately.

I married young as well. I married and had my first child at 19. Over the years my husband has matured LOTS.  He did exactly what your husband is doing now.  It was just a phase he went through I am not saying it was easy but it does get better. He now does not feel the need to go out with the guys after work. He'd rather come home and watch TV with me most days. What helped with him was he got a hobby he started playing softball. So he still has his thing that is seperate from being provider and hubby.  The mistake I did make was to not develop close friendships over the years and relied on him only for friendship. Being home also let him become dependant on always having a "babysitter" for when he wanted to go do something. Make plans for yourself without him or your daughter.  Maybe something you and your mom (sisters or cousin ?) would like to do.  Celtic is right though in my case it worked. He was always saying "Honey met a friend I'll keep the kids while you get out too.  Well I did through one of my sons softball games.  I went out with a bunch of girls and had a blast. We started to go out a couple of times a month, around that time he started change his outlook. Then it was baby stay in with me I just want to spend time with you.   Just don't let him become dependant on you always being there to care for your daughter. When you are a stay-at-home mom it's easy for them to take that for granted and think you're always available.  I think it is a good idea for fathers to have time when it's them and the child(ren) only, even if you are not going anywhere. Encourage him to take her to a park or a movie. It makes him accountable as a father and in the end it's better for you as well. With my last son I was put in the hospital for a month before my son was born. That gave him a whole new appreciation for a stay-at-home mom. I hope this all made sense.   

no you didnt.  everyone needs time to themselves. That is why I get up at 4:30 am..... Its quiet , everyone is asleep, I can drink my coffee and enter my sweeps in peace. I know just what ya mean. If you dont get time alone you become cranky. and thats not good for anyone.

Tiff that is exactly what I was going to ask. Do you go to bed at 8:00?   I am the same way but I am the opposite, instead of getting up early I go to bed really late.  It's quiet at night and I can enter all my sweeps or whatever I want to do.  Then I get the kids up and go back to sleep after they are all off to school and hubby is gone to work.  Although that will all change soon.