"You held your cool, for your kids. And thats awesome. Your wife sounds like a witch. The fact that she wasn't even upset at what she had been doing, is messed up. I hope that everything goes your way, because you sounds like the better parent for your kids."

Ok I guess thats what your talking about completely. That was my post before. I didn't say she was a bad mother. I just stated my opionion about him being the better parent. Because it seemed she didn't seem to care, about cheating on him, whatever. And that he held his cool around his kids. That takes a strong person to do.
We don't know the whole situation. And I also tried to pm him, and he didn't respond. Maybe we should just close this thread, because it seems to be an upsetting topic. I was not trying to be judgemental or anything. I was just trying to show some support for him.

Thanks for that because so many expressions lately I am wondering what exactly that means.

WOW!  I responded to this thread early on and completely could not find it when I was looking for it again.  So I was eager to read this today once I found it again and see what had happened after Gerarpd had put up the cameras!  Wow! I suspected the best friend, but not the best friends wife!!  I am so sorry.  That was a double whammy for sure!  It sounds like you took the high road when you did confront your wife and that is always the best road to take.  When you are in the right, there is no need to argue and no reason to be ugly.  You and your children will be all right.  And when the time comes for the truth to come out and the kids want to know the reason - tell them to ask her. Let her deal with it. Best of luck to you and your children.

Hi guys. I can't believe so many people responded to my story. I wanted to thank everyone who took the time to share their opinion. I am now faced with yet another dilemma. I have officially filed for divorce. I am still living with my aunt at the moment. My wife and I have been good about splitting time with the kids. We still have not told them the truth. All I asked of my wife is that she not be around my kids with her "girlfriend". She thankfully agreed. Anyway, last night my wife shows up at the doorstep crying and begging me to forgive her. She says that she was just going through some things and now wants our family back together. I'm really confused. I would like our family to stay in tact, but there is no way I'm going to be able to forget everything that she has done to me and our kids. How do I know she's not really gay and some other woman will just come and sweep her off her feet. Not only that, I've actually met a really nice woman. We met at the coffee shop and have been emailing and texting frequently. The only problem is she is eighteen years old(I'm in my thirties). I actually feel great when I'm with her, but I may just be going through something myself. She keeps asking if she can come over to the house(my aunt moved back to Florida, so I'm alone in there). Part of me wants to give in to her. I'm not sure I would be doing it out of desire for her, or me wanting revenge against my wife. I don't know what to do.

Happy to hear you are feeling better and moving on with your life. however,  like you said you are going through some things.. An Eighteen yr old doesnt have a clue, sorry..    why drag her into a mess she is not ready for and could just hurt her. Besides, that is one sure way to really tick off your wife and it doesnt really look good to others either. I understand she is an adult, legally.. but Its just not right.

Im sure you will do whats best for you and your children. good luck to you.

As if things were not weird enough! So I decide to go and talk to my wife yesterday about getting back together. She did not know I was coming. As I'm approaching the house, I notice that Leslie(the 18 year old that's been hitting on me pretty hard) is standing on our porch talking to my wife. I kept driving and they did not notice me because they were laughing and talking together. I don't know what the hell is going on now. How does this girl even know where I live and why were her and my wife talking? Something isn't right.

To set you up like this she would have to be a total nut job. Who thinks like that?   

I have a better idea. I asked Leslie to come over Saturday night. I'll be able to tell if something is going on. I'll keep you guys posted. I'll set her up before she sets me up.

This is what SA is all about.  If you can only post mean comments, don't post at all.  This is not a thread to be posting attacks on other members, attacks on the OP or conversations about Duck Embryos.  You can believe what is written or not, but please keep it to yourself.

Always remember that the person making a post is a person, with all those pesky little feelings that come with being human.  The story has developed into a fascinating saga.  Believe it or don't believe it.  Just keep your nasty comments to yourself.

I think this is a good time to remind people that this is a forum.  We don't know the people posting on it.  We only know what they write.  I could be a 12 foot chocolate rabbit for all you know.     No matter how long you talk to people on a forum, you don't really know what their lives are like, whether they are genuine, a scam artist or a troll. 

The SA forums are primarily for sweeping information.  We asked Admin to expand them a little so we could have some nonsweeping interaction with each other.  This is a privelege.  Admin expects that we will conduct ourselves in a friendly, kind, compassionate, adult way. 

While we don't want to be like other forums and pull threads and posts, let this serve as a warning.  Posts will be modified or removed if they are not constructive in nature.  Bickering with, baiting, attacking or making fun of other members will no longer be tolerated.  We have been way too lax with all this stuff lately. Let's go back to being adults and move forward.

I am sanitizing this thread. 

Ger,

Just wondering how you are holding up?  How did that weekend go?  I hope things are looking up for you.