Ok, I need to go back in time here..... 13 yrs ago, I dated a wonderful guy but at the time, he was just getting started in his career and he felt that he couldnt give me what I deserved so we split. In the meantime, we both married others and both marriages were disastrous. I was with mine for 9 years and had a child. Due to stress from his job, he turned to pot and needless to say, the fights got the best of us and we split/divorced over a year ago. During the divorce, he has managed to turn my oldest (he's almost 16)against me and is telling my boys that only dads can raise boys and my teen has moved out(not my choice)and is living with him. I work for a living, have a great job and maintain a clean home for my boys. But now, my "love" from 13 years ago has gotten in touch with me and come to find out, our divorces were 1 day apart! His marriage failed from his wife having a 2 yr long affair. Well, that love we had for each other 13 years ago has never stopped and he has now given me a promise ring and wants me to move in with him. He has his life together, beautiful home, great job,and says he will never give me up like he did 13 yrs ago. Where he lives is where I grew up and it's my hometown and I have always wanted to go back home. My family still lives there as well and it's only 30 minutes away from where I live. My current lease is up in 3 weeks. Problem: My ex-husband demands that I NOT leave the county I live in now because he wants to keep close tabs on our son. He only wants him in the school district he lives in(he lives across the street from me) and now he's starting to brainwash our youngest and tell him stories that mommy cant take you away from here. I have the opportunity of a lifetime to finally be happy and I feel my ex husband is ruining it for me.....what do I do? My best friend says for once I need to do something for myself to make ME happy because when I was married, I did everything for him. My ex says he plans to take me to court so that I cant take our youngest with me. Should I make the jump to make myself happy for once??? My son would have a very good life being with me and he would still see his dad on weekends.

I see alot of he will do this, he will do that, he won't let me do this, he won't let me do that.  Alot of what your ex is saying could just be nonsense because he is trying to control you.  As Aurora777 said, consult your attorney, find out your rights and proceed accordingly.  And as far as your ex trying to turn your children against you, he will regret that in the future.  The children will grow up, and realize that what Dad told them was a bunch of nonsense and turn against him because of it.  Sometimes kids will go along with the badmouthing parent because they tend to go to the "loudest voice" to protect themselves from being the target of that "loud voice".  But what do I know, I am just on old lady who enters sweeps .... talk to an attorney and perhaps a therapist and go from there .... good luck!!

Definitely call a lawyer. Laws are different in each state. I am divorced also and I know that child custody laws really can be strict so watch out. Don't go just moving you could be in big trouble if you do in certain states. Watch out!! Talk to a lawyer before you do anything. In some cases if you take a child out of a certain area without the father's consent he could get you for kidnapping I am pretty sure in certain states. I'm not 100% on that but I am almost 100% sure. It's really weird. Be careful! I am almost sure you have a free consult with a lawyer. At least in PA you can get a free consult. Good luck. I hope you find happiness. God bless.

Get a lawyer. I am finally almost done with my divorce. It has taken almost a year. Because I didn't have a lawyer and had to do everything myself.

Your husband is going to say or do whatever he can to try and control you. Don't let him get to you. I let my ex husband upset me a ton of times over this past year. Sometimes he can still get to me. But I finally realized there problems have nothing to do with us. They just want to keep blaming us about everything. He is now kicked out of his apartment. And him and his brother are living back at home with thier parents. lol. Hes 29, and his brother is 26.

Well good luck. Things will work out.