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« on: December 11, 2007, 07:26:12 AM »

 crazy tongue I need advice please from a experienced mother AS I STATED BEFORE IM THE GOD MOTHER OF 2 SONS WHO CAME TO ME IN YOUNG TEEN YEARS NOW 21 & 27. MOTHER DIED DRUNK DRIVING ANYHOW MY 21 YEAR OLD APPLIED FOR A JOB AT DMV WHERE HIS FRIEND WORKS today  & HIS FRIEND ALSO WHO ALREADY WORKED THERE. AS SOON AS TODAY AS THEY HIRED MY SON THEY FIRED HIS FRIEND OR " LET GO".I  THINK MY SON SHOULD QUIT AND LOOK ELSEWHERE AS THESE TWO BOYS WERE FRIENDS OF MANY YEARS IN HIGH SCHOOL & COLLEGE CLASSES.To save the friendship??? He says the boy showed no hard feelings but??? Some other parent tell me what you think would be best please or how you would handle this. GUNNY HUNNY
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« Reply #1 on: December 11, 2007, 08:12:03 AM »

Wow that is hard. Sorry that happened. I think whoever needs the job more, and would be better at the job should get it. 

My husbands friend (this guy is so scummy) well he worked with my husband. And they just fired him. My husband was so upset about it. But its a good thing. He wasnt doing his job right. And they were hanging out way to much.
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« Reply #2 on: December 11, 2007, 08:53:17 AM »

First of all I think you are awesome for even suggesting what you did to your son.  But with that said see if you can find out why he was fired.  You never know if there is a story somewhere in there that you don't know about. 
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« Reply #3 on: December 11, 2007, 10:20:21 AM »

 sunny  There are several questions that come to mind: What purpose would it serve to have your son quit? Unless your son had something to do with the other boy getting let go, I see no reason why he should quit, especially if this is a job he really wanted.  It certainly won't make any difference to the DMV as they will just hire someone else. It looks as though they were looking to replace the other boy before letting him go. you say to save their friendship... I have to wonder what kind of friendship they had if this would destroy it. You can always let him know your feelings, but if they are true friends they will work it out amongst themselves without your help.   
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« Reply #4 on: December 11, 2007, 12:21:02 PM »

I was in this situation not long ago at a job that me and my best friend worked. We just worked in different stores. The new manager was going to fire her and put me over her store and I ended up quitting instead because it was no way that I was going to take her store over and them fire her for no reason other than they didn't like her. My friend ended up quitting before they fired her and both of us still remain good friends today. I felt in my heart I did the right thing and she also feels the same way.

I would find out why his friend was fired first tho before jumping the gun on anything.
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« Reply #5 on: December 11, 2007, 01:32:36 PM »

I really really appreciate all of your advice and  comments and emails & replys here. Im trying very hard to do the " right" thing with these two young men. I justt want the right thing for him .
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« Reply #6 on: December 11, 2007, 02:21:15 PM »

 headbang  I am positive that you have been an excellent mom to the boys. Only a caring mother would have asked the question.  Since I know you have taught the boys well, they know what's right and what's wrong. Being a mom myself, I know there were lots of times that I fretted over things that they were already working out themselves.  Try not to worry  (although that is sometimes not easy for a mom) it is through making some decisions on his own that he will grow and learn. He already has the right tools that you have given him.
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« Reply #7 on: December 13, 2007, 07:07:20 AM »

 scratch CHILD quit the MVD now & is signed up to go into the MILITARY. lol lol lol  scratch Children are KILLING me I swear HEART palps every other HOUR...  scratch
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