I don't know you but I feel sympathetic of your situation.  I have gone throw something of the sort myself.  I hope things get better for you.

Tiff I am so sorry things didn't work out for you guys. You will both be in my prayers.  Hang in there divorce is tough but you will survive. I do hope you can find work soon. Are you still working for your dad? God bless and be strong.

   It will be alright tiff. you will be fine. you know if you need to talk you can email, pm or call me.

  So sorry that you weren't able to work things out, but you have to do what is right for you and Kailey. It may be an ending for one part of your life but it is also a chance for a new beginning. I have been where you are and it definitely will make you a stronger better person. Hang in there and know that we are here for you.  Big Hugs!

This has been a wierd but great experience. I was a person that was really depressed trapped in a mentally abusive marriage. I depended on everyone else but myself. I go so sick and tired of it, and I got some help, at Hubbard house. They helped me realize that no one should have to put up with that. And the reason I was feeling the way I was, was because of the abuse. I am now away from Rocky, for the most part, we talk when it has to do with Kailey. He still tries to control me, or muniplate me (like saying you won't be able to work a job, you cant clean the house without me, you will be crawling back to me).
Well I feel alot happier with myself. I am learning to stand up for myself, make decisions for myself. It is hard, and very scary, but I know I can do it.

I had to call the police today. Rocky still has the key to the house. And he came by and was sitting there watching tv eating pizza. He wont give me any money. And he was being mean, and telling me i had to pay bills, take out trash etc. (Trying to scare me)) and in the same breath he was saying he loved me, and he wants me back, etc. Whatever.
Well they kicked him out, but the police won't take the key from him. I have to go back to court I guess.

Change your locks. Go stay somewhere else or have someone stay with you until you can.
You've done  the right thing for yourself & your child. No one should ever have to live that way. Stay strong, stay connected to a support system, and use all of the resources available to you to help get you on your feet.

He is scared of jail, so he won't do anything to make him go to jail.

I have been calling all these agencies to try and get financial help with my utilities. Well they have these appt lines. And they only stay open for like an hour. It seems like everyone is calling it. Because I cannot get through. I even came to my moms house to use her phone and my phone.
I called the child support enforcement agency. They said it could take 60 days or so to get any info from when I filed. I guess I just need to take him to court.
I also want to file for divorce but do not know how.
Rockys parents are actually for us getting a divorce. Its wierd situation.

You know that we've talked about some of this in the past, and that I was married to a verbally-, mentally, and physically-abusive person.  So, you can always pm me about anything.

As for getting a divorce, it's as simple as filling out and filing the paperwork for the courthouse--if it's amicable.  If it's not, you have to sue Rocky for divorce; and that's when things can get dirty.  At that point, it's best to get a lawyer; but I know you can't afford one.  You can still handle it yourself, but it involves knowing how to fill out, word, and file motions to the courthouse.  Hopefully, yours will be easier than mine was.  My ex was also a compulsive liar who had know qualms about lying in court.  Ours ended up being the worse-case scenario you can imagine for getting a divorce--dragged out over almost six years of hell.

I found one, I think its called the three rivers clinic. Or something like that. They help women with legal issues, if they are in domestic violence situtations. They aren't open on the weekends. So monday I will call them, and hopefully get the ball rolling.

Btw yesterday I told Rocky he could come get some of his stuff. Well he went in the house and locked the outside door, so I couldn't get in. Then he did something really disgusting on my bed, and to my clothes (if you can imagine it starts with an M)
Well I knew what he was doing, So I banged on the door. When he finally came out I confroted him, yelled at him. I was pissed. Well he then followed me to my parents house. He finally left for work. I was really upset, and told my parents. They told me to call the police. A policeman came over, wrote up a report, violation of injunction. But said he can't really arrest him because of two reasons. 1. I said he could come over.. 2. What he did wasn't violent or sexual battery or anything like that.
But from now on if he wants to come get his stuff he needs to have a police escort. And also I need to go change the injunction, and try and get child support.
Rocky was mad, and thought what he did was no big deal. Everyone I talk to thinks its sick and wierd.

Sorry about the too much info, I just need to vent. Rocky is trying to muniplate me, his parents are doing it to. They want to see kailey every week. But when they don't like something I do, like calling the police on Rocky. They bad mouth me, say I'm a horrible mom. etc.  They are so flaky fake

wow tiff. im so sorry you are going through this. Just stick to your guns ok. Dont let him get to you. Do as GSW says and document everything. He sounds like he has severe issues. geez, craaaazy..

I'm sorry you are having such a hard time but it does sound like you are getting things together
I'm keeping you in my thoughts and prayers