bad thing happen tonight

tiffandrock

tiffandrock

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Well 2 hours after I posted my win. Something really sad happened. My four year old daughter was jumping on our recliner. She got off to find our bunny. And she spotted it, but then started screaming, and crying. She screamed that the bunny had blood all over it.
I got up, and went to look, and the bunny had gotten squished by the recliner.
My daughter cried, I freaked out, and started crying, I yelled at her, What did you do.
Took 20 mins to calm down, I called my parents, and my mom came over, and cleaned up the rabbit. Put her in a box, and took her to my moms house. We will bury it tommorrow.
My mom helped me calm kailey down. She told her the bunny is in heaven. And kailey said she would miss her bunny, and she wanted another animal. We told her she can't have another one, because this house has to many places that are not safe for animals.
She cried a whole lot. And She told God she was sorry that she killed her bunny. That hurt my heart so bad to hear her say that. It was a freak accident, she didn't mean to kill it.
We will miss that bunny. But I am scared my daughter will be tramatized by this. She saw the bunny, and it was really gross looking. She will forever have that in her memory. Now she is scared that there are "dead" bunnies walking around our house. As she says. I know that sounds silly to an adult. But to her, she is very frightened. I don't know what to do. She is sleeping right now. So hopefully she will have good dreams, and feel a little better in the morning. Anyone have any suggestions
My husband isn't much help. He was at work when It happen, I told him and he freaked out, and yelled at me, why did she do that. And he told me I need to spank her. He doesn't understand. ( he is not very good with handling drama situations.)
 
How horrible for your little one. I am so sorry she has to deal with this. My heart breaks for her. The only thing I can say is comfort her if she needs it. I am so sorry for your loss.
 
Poor Kailey. What a sad accident. A friend of mine had a similar mishap with a ferret a few years ago. She was in her 20's when it happened and she was very shaken. What an awful thing for a four year old to have to process. It was an accident, a sad accident.
 
one thing is to not let her take the blame for the bunny, I know that is hard, but she had no idea that it was there.If she says it is her fault re-inforce the fact that it is ok and it is not her fault.
 
ll1 said:
one thing is to not let her take the blame for the bunny, I know that is hard, but she had no idea that it was there.
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yea, I have told her that it wasn't her fault. She just cries, it is so sad. She will forget about it for 5 mins, and then realize it agian, and start talking about it, and cry agian. Then it makes me cry, so that her cry even more. Its a good thing she is asleep right now, because i feel so upset. I just feel dumb, like im a bad parent, because I wasn't watching her, or keeping an eye on the bunny.
 
definitely not bad parenting, it is just one of life's situations that come along. And you have to deal with.
 
It does no one any good to spank her - it will just make her feel worse and guilty even more. It was an accident.

You and your husband need to talk to each other before you talk to your daughter and come up with a plan together. I'm glad you're going to bury the bunny. Maybe that will help.

It's very hard to raise a child - I have three adult sons. You never know what they will remember about growing up. Some things that I remember about their childhoods, they don't remember at all. :scratch:

I have two bunny stories - they were traumatic at the time, but, now many years later, my sons and I can laugh about them. Sometimes, the best medicine is laughter, even though it comes later in life.

So, keep your chin up. Kailey will be all right, really - kids bounce back faster than you know. Just hug her and kiss her and tell her it will be all right. Mommy's kiss can still heal :sunny:

Kate
 
oh tiff im sooo sorry. Thats awful. I hope she feels better. Just make sure ya keep telling her that it was an accident. and it wasnt her fault. you are not a bad parent. you are a very caring, loving and patient parent. I hope she feels better and you too.
 
:cry: So sorry to hear about your tragedy. You poor little one. Those kinds of things have a way of sticking in their minds (thankfully it doesn't usually last long), so be sure to reassure her and give her lots of love until it is forgotten.
 
Thank you guys :wave:

Today went so much smoother. Rocky took the cage outside. So I think it is sinking in that the rabbit is gone. Kailey talks about the rabbit alot. But she doesn't cry now. So that is good. She now is blaming me for having the recliner. She says we shouldn't have that chair. Oh well. So she is doing alot better.
Does anyone listen to the radio station Air 1 its a christian alternative. Well on fridays you can call in and talk about whatever. I called in and talked about the bunny. And a bunch of other parents then called in, and told thier animal stories. SO that made me feel much better.
 
I am so sorry you had to go through that. I know when my boys have had a cat die and were very upset we had a little funeral for it. As crazy as it sounds that is what made them feel a little better. We said something good about Meeko and let each say something if they wanted to. Maybe it was a closure thing. I know it sounds a little morbid, but it also showed them to give respect even in death.
 
Oh my gosh poor little thing I hope she and you will just let time heal the hurt you guys are feeling. It was just an accident and sometimes they happen hopefully it will be a learning experience for her and she won't remember it in a few weeks.
 
So sorry about the accident involving her bunny. I agree with the others don't spank her because of what happened. It was an accident and she did not kill the bunny on purpose. I hope she feels better soon.
 
I hope your daughter is doing okay, Please just dont make her feel guilty about it , it was truly an accident. Dont let her carry the guilt.
 
Hi, new here and was just browsing around this other part of the forum and just wanted to let you know this happened to me as a child. Was letting my first cat's new kittens wander around the family room and my sister was rocking in a rocking chair and squished one of the kittens.

Just want to reassure you that even though I remember it, it didn't do terrible damage. I remember the incident but can't remember what the squished kitten looked like.

Just want to comment on one thing, you said in the first post "We told her she can't have another one, because this house has to many places that are not safe for animals." I don't think I would recommend that approach. I think she should be able to get another pet when she is ready. After all, every house has some dangers?

I think giving her another pet (who more than likely will just be fine) would give her confidence that she can take care of pets and that it was just an unfortunate accident. Otherwise she might think "I can't have a pet, cause I killed one." which could lead to really bad self-esteem issues.

Only other thing is I would say don't dwell on it yourself. If SHE brings it up, then yes talk about her feelings and give her reassurance. But, I think if you bring it up a lot or ask her about it, it will get more "fixed" in her mind.

Just my two cents (take it or leave it) ... and sorry this happened!
 
Oh Tiff, how awful for you both!!! :cry:

I agree with everyone to not let her feel like it was a fault thing - and that includes her blaming you for having the chair.

But - that does open the door to you having a good "cause and effect" conversation with her. I realize at 4 she will have a hard time grasping the concept that our actions always have consequences, some good, some bad, but I really think if she can put it all together - with your help - it will help her deal.

As for having another animal? Once you've had those convos with her, and she realizes that responsibility comes with owning a pet, I think it would be the best thing you could do for her to help her cope.

Raising a child/children is a gift - and it's one you obviously cherish - so don't you ever feel you don't deserve it/are a bad parent!!! :sunny:
 
:wave: Well its funny how little kids are so tough. We ended up getting a new bunny. She promised to take better care of it. Make sure if its out, that we know where it is. Well that helped her get over it faster. And she has taken better care of it. So all in all, it was a good lesson for her. And she realized it wasnt such a big deal, because snakes, and other big animals eat rabbits. Thats the way of life. Ok I know thats so gross, but she didn't feel so bad about the rabbit dying.
 
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