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3mnkids1

3mnkids1

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Im so tired of my brother calling me with his latest disaster. ya know what! He is one man! He should take care of himself . Their are FIVE people being supported in this house. We cant afford to take care of him too.. He called at the wrong time today to bitch to me. I had just sat down to pay bills when he called. Look, I have 2000.00 in bills every month that I pay. In addition to gas and groceries. Stop calling me with your freaking sob stories. Get a freaking second job ok. He works 25 hrs a week is all. Why? because he is a lazy bum. lazy bum lazy bum.!!!! :cussing: :cussing:

Oh, And he is a terrible influence on my daughter. He's funny and goofy and a huge pot head. She just thinks that is so funny! Its not funny. He is a freakin bum ok! He will always be a freakin bum ok! Its not cute to be a 36 yr old pothead dishwasher. He just opens his mouth and says whatever he wants without thinking hey, maybe the kids are around. maybe I should watch what I say. noooooooo!..

Until he shapes up he better just stay the hell away from me and my family.

feels good to get that out. :laughing:
 
There's one in every family. :headbang:

It's a shame he is being a negative influence on your daughter. He is her uncle. He should be setting a positive example.

To call you on bill paying night just added insult to injury. :cussing:

I am dealing with a brother in law that is in a financial mess right now. I want to tell him that he doesn't have to winter in Florida. He really can work year round! :nono:

Hang in there. You have it right, your family has to come first.
 
That is EXACTLY the way my brother is when he isn't in prison :laughing: He'll be 30, he's a drunk, pothead, foul-mouthed, dishwasher also!! And again, when he isn't in prison.

He was washing dishes at Golden Corral the last time he got arrested. Yep, while at work. He lived with us off and on til I told him to get out and never come back. He also worked 25 hours a week. Sometimes 30 if they asked him to work overtime. He'd start drinking before he was even off of work or he'd drink and THEN go to work. He thought it was funny(while smashed) to tell the boys stories while using the foulest words imaginable, preferrably, foul words that replaced proper words for the human anatomy. The boys love him dearly which makes it all so sad.

And Trace, if your brother is anything like my brother, the whole world is out to get him! Never once has he taken the slightest bit of responsibility for his life. It's always someone else's fault for why he does the things he does or why his life is crap. He'll call Mother from prison, whining about how he got thrown in the hole for cussing out the guards. The guards made him do it. The guards treat him like sh!t. He ain't having no guard talk that way to him(his words). He's repulsive and childish. I hope when he gets out that Mother will not enable him this time cuz I'm done! I haven't spoken to him in many years and feel no remorse about it.
 
I hate being this way but I don't see any other choice. We were split up when we were kids. I was 7 and he was 6. ya know, sorry ass parents. A father who enjoyed being cruel. and a mother to wrapped up in herself to realize she had children to take care of. anyway, We didn't see each other but maybe half a dozen times from that time until we were in our thirties. I thought when I moved back to IL we could be friends ya know. Doesn't look like its gonna happen. He blames mom and dad for every single thing wrong in his life. We did have the same parents ya know and while I will admit I'm not exactly normal Im not a dead beat like him. Im not going to worry about it anymore. I have more important things to worry about right now. thanks for listening.
 
:laughing: The problem with that is that no woman with a lick of sense would want a bum. Men like that usually end up with woman who are just as lazy that think everyone owes them something.
There is hope, my youngest brother was supported by my parents until he was almost 40. He finally got a decent job, a great wife and has turned into a wonderful brother.
 
The way I look at it...if you wouldn't put up with it from your kids then you shouldn't have to put up with it from your family!! Good luck ~ I know it is hard. You love them and you want them to change, but sometimes it just isn't possible!!
 
:cheers: Once people stop enabling them, they learn to either sink or swim. They only do it because they can.
 
Wolfie said:
They need good, ready to settle down, women to straighten their :booty" :booty" out!
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He would have to leave his apartment for that to happen. Cant just sit around getting stoned and expect the women to come to you. oh, but he did have one. yeah, his best friend of 25 yrs took him in when he had no where to go and was sleeping in his car and ya know what? He started an affair with his friends wife. nice huh? :nono:
 
wow. I guess all you can do is tell him to call you up when he gets his life straightened out. Hes a grown man. Theres not much you can do for him. Especially when you have kids. They don't need to be around that.

My husband has a cousin. Hes 30 something. And basically a bum. But he has mental problems. I think hes skizo. Because he hears voices, yells at himself, and has conversations with himself. Well right now he is living next to my parents house, in our old trailer. He has to pay them $250 a month. No where else can you get such a good deal. Well he barely can pay that. His dad keeps having to pay it for him. Hes not working, because he goes through wierd stages, where he can keep a job. But then he gets "crazy" and stays in his home all day. And loses his job. He told my husband one day that he slept for 22 hours just getting up to go to the bathroom.
All the men in my husbands family are nuts though. No wonder I don't want to have a Biological "boy" baby.
But thats a whole nother story.
But its really sad because I want my husband to help his cousin out. Maybe get him some ssi or something. And my husbands like, its not my place. Where his cousin really cant help himself. Because hes mentally not there sometimes.
 
Trace-I know this is serious stuff, but I just had to laugh at that LOL! That is SO my brother to a T!! I can't count how many girlfriends/wives of his friends my brother has slept with for one reason or another. When he started sleeping with mine, I lost all respect for him and her/them.

I was thrown into mediator role even though these girls knew how he was! How could they not? They saw him first-hand disrespect many ladies who'd come to my house with him to get clothes, take him to work, etc. He once ripped the shirt off of a recent girlfriend to expose her breasts for all to see. This was during Mother's Day no less and was done in front of my children, her children, my niece, and not to mention our mother. My girlfriend was here with her kids as well and supported me and hubby when hubby had to run him off. My girlfriend came over to my house a week later....with my brother! They were "taking things slow" and "seeing where things might lead." Led his a$$ to jail is where it led when he stole her car and wrecked it. She cried. I laughed.
 
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