How can you survive???

tiffandrock

tiffandrock

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Well I called and they told me my hospital bill.... $1,148.00. I don't even think that includes the hospital ride.

Ask them to give me an itemized list. In detail. They said I should get it in 5 days.

Then last night, my husband went to the hospital, at like 2 am. I didn't even know, because I was sleeping. He was delivering pizza, and went to someones door, said he couldn't see out of his one eye, and his arm was numb. He ended up calling 911, and they took him to the hospital, took his blood, pulse, etc. He was fine, and decided to leave the hospital. Don't know how much that bill will be.

We make just enough to pay our bills. Considered poor, but just above the line where you can get medicaid. Where its not fair. I know of at least two couples that have lots of kids, and just milk the benefits for all they are worth. Both of the dads are criminals...in and out of jail.
This sucks. I'm going to be able to pay like $20 a month. That would take me probably 30 years to pay off at that rate (ok I don't do math real well).

Plus i'm pushing Rocky to get a job with benefits. About 4 years ago. He had a good job, making $10 an hour, and we were about to get benefits. But then the company laid him off. He needed a job fast, because I had just had kailey, and couldn't work. Well he got a job at papa johns as a delivery driver. It was only sopposed to be temp. But he has stayed there for four years now. Papa johns doesn't give benefits. Sopposidly rocky makes $29,000 a year. I don't see it. Yes he pays alot of bills. But when you average everything in, its not worth it. All the oil changes, car things, like tires, etc. Stress, working nights, not spending enough time with us.
Maybe I'm a griping ungrateful wife. But I wish he would get a better job. I know theres jobs out there. But its like he doesn't think hes capable of getting a better job. I guess his dads not a good mentor.... his dad junks, sells at the flea market, and then gambles.
ughhhhhhhhhhh
Thanks for letting me gripe.
 
He would probably really appreciate it if you got a job as well. It would most certainly help your situation. It may not be a great job but any more money coming in would help. When my husband and I were having money problems I got a job. A job at wendys. :laughing: I needed something flexible and that was. it wasnt much but it bought groceries. I worked after he got home so someone was home with the kids. you could do something like that.

As to the hospital bill, most will work with you. Take a real good look at the itemized list. Try and get them to lower the bill. Sometimes they will.
 
Yeah, I just got a second job. Well, kinda like a 4th but not really. I clean 3 different houses and am now a part-time cashier/unloader/stocker. I'd clean public restrooms and be a janitor if it meant keeping my family afloat. I'd hate it but I'd do it.

I don't know about Florida living but if he's making $29K and you're bringing in $500 a month in extra money, that's good stuff! Not exactly rolling in the dough but good none the less. But Florida may have a totally different(higher) cost of living than Ohio. Don't know the statistics...
 
that's not much less than what I made working at wendys :laughing: well, can you cut back on things. satellite, cable... Internet *gasp* ? :laughing: ok, you dont qualify for medicaid but can you get food stamps? never mind. probably not.

You need to sit down and figure out what your bills are every month. Then how much you have to put back every week to cover those bills. What ever is left is well.. whatever is left.. for groceries, gas and stuff.

I hope things get better for ya tiff. Its hard when you are struggling. :love:
 
I don't spend much money. Its Rocky that spends all the money. He doesn't realize how much he spends.
He will put $5 here, and $15 there in his gas tank. And it is such a waste. He drives too much for his job. But he also does it when hes off work. Like what do normal people do when they get off? We go home, eat dinner, spend time with our families.
Well since we are sleeping. He gets off work, goes driving around with his friends, or out to eat with them. He eats way too much fast food. Everynight during work hes gotta have a coffee, he usually buys starbucks once a week, and mc donalds iced coffee the other days. Then he buys $4 in drinks, food, etc. A night.
Thats almost half what he gives me for groceries a week. He usually gives me $40 a week for groceries. Plus alot of the times he takes a lunch to work. So buy friday we are outta food at home. And I have to buy food.
He used to give money away alot. Homeless people, his stupid moocher friends, etc. He doesn't do it much anymore.
I don't want to get a "real" job....a "full" time job. Because for two reasons. One I am scared outta my mind to get one. I have lead a very "sheltered life". Basically since I was 16. At 16 I got raped, and then 17 agian. So after that my mom basically did everything for me. I'm not saying it was right or wrong for her to do it. But it was a survival for me. I had tried to commit sucide twice, and my mom was so desperate not to lose me. That I guess she babyied me. And now I don't know how to function in the real world. I know I have alot of issues with self esteem, and I don't give myself enough credit. I quit before I even try. But I don't know how to get past it. I have come along way. If you had seen me at 16,17,18, you would have seen a misreable, hollow, messed up girl. And now I'm a mom, wife, and can usually stand up for myself, I'm usually happy, and can do alot of things I could never do. LIke get my drivers license. That was such a hard thing for me to even think of doing. And it took me till I was 21, but I did it.
 
Also...I wanted to say. My mom is really trying to distance herself from me. In a good way. When I'm in need, or trouble or whatever, my first response is to call my mom, and ask for money or something. Well I asked her if I had any money left in my stocks. She told me I have a little left. And I asked if I could use that to pay my hospital bill off. She told me no. To use that if I'm really desperate. That I can pay this hospital bill off, Even if it takes me 2 years. I think it hurts my mom to tell me no. But shes making me stronger, by doing it.
 
If you don't want to get a "real job" then I don't know what to sat, tiff. We all gotta grow up sometime. It's a sink or swim world. Why is it so scary to get a "real job?" You go to work and at the end of the week(or 2) you bring home money! I like money! A lot!! So much so that I wanted 2 jobs! And then I also make hubby go to work so that's even MORE money!! :laughing:
 
Im sorry you have had so many issues tiff. you are bringing money in the house so that is a big help. Getting out of the house and getting some independence might be just what you need. I know its scary.. But rewarding. I think you would feel better about yourself. you can do it tiff. I know ya can. And tell rocky you are putting him on a budget. :laughing: he can make coffee at home and take a thermos.
 
Tiff when I was your age I used to babysit kids mainly because I wanted to stay home with my own and I made decent money. I applaud you for trying to be independant and hang in there it will get better because you want it to. I agree you can do it. Right now you are just feeling overwhelmed.
 
Well I got good news and bad news. My dad talked to the hospital financial lady.

They will cut my bill %40. But I have to pay all of it in 120 days.

So it would be like $700 in 120 days.

Thats alot better. But not enough time to make it all. Gotta figure something out.
 
A little known fact. The hospital can't come after you for not paying the bill by a specified time as long as you are sending them in some amount of payment each month.
 
Awww...I feel your pain Tiff...
Good luck with everything and I'll pray for you...
When I was a poor college student, I used to substitute teach at the local school district...I could choose the days when I wanted to teach and do it whenever I had a free day available...Some districts pay pretty well too...
 
I'm stressed today, and feel like screaming.
I pick up kailey from school. They told me they moved her into a different class, because there was to many kids in the class. I loved her teacher, I had that same teacher when I was a kid. Her teacher told me kailey's one of the brightest kids in the class..... Then why move her??? Shes doing so good there. Well kailey told me she cried all day. She also told me that the kids that got moved with kailey, were the ones that were mean to kailey. So great, I thought at first at least she would be with some of her friends, but none of her friends got moved.
And to make things worse. The baby (im babysitting) ran out of diapers. The mom gives me 5 everyday. Well 5 inst going to cut it, for 8 hours. Sometimes 9. Mom cant get the baby till 4:30. I don't have any other diapers. And I don't wanna spend my money on diapers, because I know I wont get that money back.
 
well I went and spent $10 on a 35-pack of pampers diapers. These diapers are awesome. The ones the mom brings me, are winn dixie brand, and those leak, and hold much.

She said she would pay me back. Won't hold my breath though.
 
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