I'm selling my husband!!!

tiffandrock

tiffandrock

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I'll take GC's, toys, dvds, etc. No but really. He is such a self centered~ selfish~ Punk! Its 10:52, I called him, hes at work, he gets off at 11. I've been waiting for him to come home so we can spend time together. (Me~ spending time is talking, or being around him more then a freaking hour.) (him~spending time is sex). Well anyways. He got all fussy, and said he wasn't coming home till late, because he is going out with the guys. Im 23 years old, why am I sitting home like a frumpy house wife. Hmm cause I have no money, and no friends. I am so upset. Grrrrrrrrrr. Today I saw him for an hour. While he was getting dressed, and he came to Kaileys soccer game. Halfway through the game, she was being stubborn, and wouldn't play, so he left to go back home and sleep.
(he does work nights, but still) So I went to the movies with kailey and my mom after. We got home for about 20 mins rocky was there. But then he went skateboarding, and to work. Does everyone have these problems with their husbands? Or is it just his age.
 
:scratch: probably the age but I think you will find a lot of men like this, men and women have different outlooks on things and it is finding what they are and what they are not and accepting that they will not change unless something changes there perception. :error:
 
Nov 16th will be our 5 year wedding annv. We married when I was 18, and he was 21. Hes been acting like a teenager for 5 years. I wish he would just grow up. I guess this is the punishment I get for marrying so young. :cry: I wish I could take him back to his mom and ask for a refund :laughing:
 
Im sorry tiff. Husband can be a little hard to take sometimes. :laughing: wives also. I have noticed that if I get a tone, or sound like im nagging my husband just tunes me out. They are good at that. Maybe try talking to him a different way. It may not sound like nagging to you or me but to a man it probably does. :scratch: I hope you can get him to listen and understand you need things to.
 
he called me back and apologized, he said hes gonna come home till I go to bed, and then go out agian. :scratch: oh well you cant win them all.
 
Him saying he is sorry is a big deal. :cheers: Maybe you should find something you could do. everyone needs time apart from each other. they need their own "thing". Maybe you can make friends with some of the mothers from your daughters soccer team.
 
:wave: Just try to hang in there Tiff. I can assure you that it is his age. He's still young. For some reason it seems to take them longer to grow up. You have to realize that he IS under alot of pressure and needs time to unwind with friends. So do you! You really need to develop a circle of friends. As long as his going out with his buddies is only an occasionally event, I wouldn't make too big of a deal out of it. Try not to rag on him too bad, especially if he is a good father and provides for his family. Don't make him dread coming home because he knows you are going to be on his case. Make sure he knows that you are lonely, you love him and just would like to spend some time with him.
 
Hey Tiff, sorry you had a bad night. ll1 is soooooooo right (trust him, he's a guy) It's just the age. People, both men and women are just simply are who they are. It sounds like he is a bit selfish but you know what, I like to go out with the girls too every once in a while. Work gets to draining and cooking dinner, doing homework, doing the carpool. You get my drift. Just find your own thing and do it. He may even join you. Just give it some time and who knows what may happen. Do not sit at home though. I did that for seventeen years and guess what, it didn't work. Go have some fun. :)
 
Men are easily bored if you do not provide a challenge. :headbang: If you beg for attention, you won't get it. Make him chase you, not the other way around. They are the hunters, ya know? Distance yourself a bit and find stuff to get into. Brush him off a few times. Chances are you will get WAY more attention that way. If he is going out at night with the guys all the time, then you MUST go out with the girls now and then too. You are just making it way too easy for him and he feels like he doesn't even have to try. Even if you have no friends, find some, or act like you have some and go to your mom's and take a nap for a couple hours. Join a club or volunteer somewhere, like the local animal shelter for a couple hours a month. That's a good way to meet a nice friend!
 
I'd like to sell mine, but I would really have to pay someone to take him away. Seriously, I have been through a tough couple of weeks with family issues and hubby has been home a grand total of 10 hours. All of which he has slept or argued with me.

Want to trade? :scratch: :laughing:

I feel your pain!
 
Its kinda funny. All my friends and I talk and its like we are married to the same man. Are they all alike? :laughing: now men don't take that as a slam. My husband can be like that. either working, sleeping or wanting to argue. well, maybe not argue. He is to passive aggressive for that. :laughing: I tell him he likes to start a fire and watch it burn out of control. the fire would be me. Its the red hair. I have such a temper. They know how to push buttons. Tiff I hope today goes better for ya. and wolfie I understand completely. Men can be a little insensitive. :cry:
 
Okay, I nominate Celticbikerbabe to be the new resident couples therapist. She's so right on with her comments. Oh my gosh, she should have a talk show.
 
:wave: I personally do not feel that you playing games and making up stories to tell your spouse will help a build trust in a relationship. Telling lies about your whereabouts can only lead to trouble. I do agree that you shouldn't appear too needy towards him.
 
From the personal files, try looking for friends among other moms. Does Kailey have any special friends at school? Arrange to meet at a playground some time when the kids aren't in school. The kids will have a great time playing with each other and you'll probably find that you have more in common with the other moms than you may have guessed. Men vex us all!
 
Jimmie doesn't want me to leave the house when he is here. I have tried to explain to him that every now and then I need sometime out just to think. I mean I don't drink and I don't cheat ~ I am as boring as the day is long, sometimes I just need time to ME.

When I had to go the the ER a couple of weeks ago he told me that it wasn't very convienent for HIM ~ WHAT??? My possible kidney failure putting you out there buddy?!!? He is lucky I didn't feel good enough to chase him down and choke him. Yes, sometimes I think they all can be alike.

When you are having a really bad day it seems like you gain another kid instead of a spouse. I have had to make Jimmie step it up a little since having all of these health problems ~ he has had to unload/load the dishwasher on occasions, same with the washer and dryer, he had to mow, and he had to (g*a*s*p*)fix a couple of meals!! He just didn't have a choice!!
 
Well I don't have that problem and I guess I'm lucky. I have been blessed with a wonderful spouse. I've had many health issues this year and he has stood beside every day helping me when needed on my worse days. He has made time to go to doctor visits with me and helped me with cooking and cleaning and pretty much whatever I ask him to help me with on my bad days.

The only day he's not around much is on Sundays and that is because he goes next door to spend time with his parents and brother and I encourage him to spend as much time with them as he possibly can because I know what it's like to not have your parents to visit anymore. I miss mine so much since they both passed away.

We both make the time to fit in some me time alone his is hunting and mine is reading or working on a craft project. But when we get ready to socialize we have other married couples that we socialize with together. Neither of us have single buddies that we hang out with separately.
 
Tiff you guys are both young and it just takes time and a lot of patience to keep a marriage going but hang in there. This too shall pass.
 
I married young as well. I married and had my first child at 19. Over the years my husband has matured LOTS. He did exactly what your husband is doing now. It was just a phase he went through I am not saying it was easy but it does get better. He now does not feel the need to go out with the guys after work. He'd rather come home and watch TV with me most days. What helped with him was he got a hobby he started playing softball. So he still has his thing that is seperate from being provider and hubby. The mistake I did make was to not develop close friendships over the years and relied on him only for friendship. Being home also let him become dependant on always having a "babysitter" for when he wanted to go do something. Make plans for yourself without him or your daughter. Maybe something you and your mom (sisters or cousin ?) would like to do. Celtic is right though in my case it worked. He was always saying "Honey met a friend I'll keep the kids while you get out too. Well I did through one of my sons softball games. I went out with a bunch of girls and had a blast. We started to go out a couple of times a month, around that time he started change his outlook. Then it was baby stay in with me I just want to spend time with you. :laughing: Just don't let him become dependant on you always being there to care for your daughter. When you are a stay-at-home mom it's easy for them to take that for granted and think you're always available. I think it is a good idea for fathers to have time when it's them and the child(ren) only, even if you are not going anywhere. Encourage him to take her to a park or a movie. It makes him accountable as a father and in the end it's better for you as well. With my last son I was put in the hospital for a month before my son was born. That gave him a whole new appreciation for a stay-at-home mom. I hope this all made sense.
 
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