stupid brother vent

[3mnkids1]

omg! Just got a phone call from my oh, so grown up 36yr old brother.. from jail. :error: Can you bail me out. um, hell no!!!!!!!!!!!!!... He seriously expected me to go wake up my husband who has to be at work in a few hours to go the bank, drive 30 minutes away and bail his stupid ass out of jail. Ain't going to happen.

You know, I'm so sick of this. Every time I turn around its something else with him. always something else. Do I have the money to bail him out? yes. But, my husband works to hard to just hand over money to his dumb ass. sorry. I'm a little bit angry. Its 11:30 here right now. I'm up but everyone else is sleeping. wth is he thinking.

I have 3 children, 4 if ya count my husband I don't need or want another. I think its pathetic that he expects me and my family to bail him out of trouble all the time. He is a grown man.

what am I going to do? He ask. Oh, I don't know.. be a man, stop screwing up...he is calling again.... He called his boss and his boss is supposed to be getting him out. The same boss that paid his light bill a couple of months ago..His car was impounded and he is hinting that he wants me to give him the money for that. wrong. oh, he also had a minor in his car. one of the sixteen yr old girls he works with. He says he was just taking her home from work. I don't know and I don't care.

 

[pmeek]

:wave: Now when you think you are going to change your mind, read your post!! He is only calling you because he knows that you have always helped bail him out. DON'T do it. He won't learn to stand on his own two feet if you don't let him. It's not fair to your family. Don't let him play the family card on you, if he does turn it around and tell him that you do care about family, your own family!! If he cared about family he wouldn't keep taking from yours.

 

[completelyme]

As soon as I read the thread title, Trace, I thought to myself, "Glad mine's in prison!" And then I see your is in jail :laughing:

I don't know if they ever change. My bro has been in prison for 2-3 years and he's still not taking any responsibility for anything he's ever done, including the crime that led to his incarceration. He's still cussing people out(guards) and demanding what he thinks is rightfully his. Mother still falls for his poor me role and she has enabled him his entire life.

I don't know what to tell ya, hun. All I know is mine expected the same from our family...to bail him out whenever necessary and to not give him a hard time about it. I resent my brother very much and consider him nothing. One can't help but feel cumbersome after a while.

 

[zwriter]

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I applaud you.
Tough love is hard, but the only thing that has a chance of helping your brother. If he has it in his mind that he will get bailed out every time he screws up he will never learn.
Every time he calls you for bail, just tell him you love him, but no you will not bail him out of jail!
I had to do it with a son, just about broke my heart – but now he is a 30 year old business owner with a house and a sunny personality. No Jail for over ten years. But it was very very tough to stop enabling him.
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