When you finally realize you have a problem

tiffandrock

tiffandrock

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Well the past two days, my mom, mil, and sil have been helping me clean, get rid of, etc in my house. Because we are moving.
I am a huge pack rat. We have been finding tons and tons of old toys, clothes, etc. Its actually embarrassing. No wonder my house is such a mess. Kailey is 5, and we actually found a two full bags of 2 year old clothes, baby toys, etc.
This is actually really hard to do. I have to hear my mil, mother, and sil say, trash, sell, etc. Some of my really favorite things, because we wont have room in the new house. And really I need to grow up. But its still hard to just get over it. Like I have a bunch of posters of movies around my house, they made me tear them down. They were all kids movies posters. When kailey got back home, she didn't even realize they were gone. Oh well, I gotta get over this some how.
We are going to have a huge garage sale. I'm thinking I'll make a good amount of money. The sad part is. I wont want to save the money. I really deep down, just want to go spend it agian......on movies, toys, etc. AHHHhhh Anyone else do stuff like this? Or am I the only wierdo.
WEll tonight is the last night in our old house. Sleeping. WE are moving our beds, the rest of our furniture into the new house tommorrow.
The rest of the stuff will stay in our old house for the garage sale friday, and we have to clean the whole house before we can give the keys back to the landlord. IF we do it by the 17th, we wont have to pay rent this month. WHoo hoo. And hopefully we can get our deposit back. OH please oh please. I'm hoping.
Ok thanks for letting me rant. :)
 
Im sorry its bothering ya tiff. I cant say I understand though. Im not a pack rat. :laughing: I like things neat and organized.. not always easy with three children and a husband who havent realized they can bend down and pick something up. :scratch:

Just remember its just Stuff. Toys and clothes that she wont play with and cant wear could be put in a yard sale like you are doing or given to someone who really needs them.. You are going to have to figure out a way to stay on top of things. I go through the boy's room every month and just start throwing crap away.. Toys that are broken, missing pieces, whatever. If I didnt do that I wouldnt be able to see the floor of their room. Also, you are going to have to say im going to clean for this many minutes every day. every day tiff. :laughing:

What you need is a junk drawer. One drawer. Put stuff in there that you just are sure you want to get rid of. When the junk draw is full its time to clean it out.. not make another junk drawer :nono:

It will be alright tiff. you will move into the house and it will be nice and clean and uncluttered and you will want to keep it that way. You will see how much more comfortable it is. You can do it tiff. I have faith in ya. :love:
 
It took moving, and having a new house to realize I don't want to be lazy, cluttered, and dirty anymore. I wish I could post a picture of my new house but then you might know where I live. lol. jk, I'll try to figure out how later.
 
tiffandrock said:
It took moving, and having a new house to realize I don't want to be lazy, cluttered, and dirty anymore. I wish I could post a picture of my new house but then you might know where I live. lol. jk, I'll try to figure out how later.
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Tiff I dont think you are lazy and dirty.. cluttered maybe. :laughing: You just let it overwhelm ya is all. It will be better in the new house.
 
What do you do when your husband has a problem to? Mine is toys, books, movies, etc.
His is paper. Hes got ocd. He writes in journals, keeps all those. HE has journals dating back to 2000. That takes up room. Plus old sobe bottles, he wont get rid of them. And tons and tons of paper reciepts, from working at papa johns, they have peoples address's on them. He wont get rid of them. And old daily breads (they are like day to day christian reflections or something.
So its not just me. :nono: :cry: :cussing:
 
Tiff, it doesn't mean you are lazy and dirty! Sometimes it's tough getting rid of things and some might even hold sentimental value and memories for us.

Ok, I admit it. My family is packrats! I want to get rid of clutter and I have to take things out little by little to give away or toss because, they throw a fit if they see me, heck sometimes I personally can't let go of things or feel bad tossing them. I admit that I too have boxes of things that I really don't need. If I could buy some storage tubs big enough for my photographs and misc. I know I could organize better. My closets are horrible, my dh and I do try to keep ours cleaned at the bottom for the kids and I to fit in during a tornado warning but, you haven't seen the top shelf. Most of the clutter is in the closets,cupboards and drawers.

I really, really want to get rid of more stuff in my house and I think I will get rid of even more very soon. When I moved here from CA I had brought hardly anything! I brought a small 1 horse trailer load of stuff. I sold and gave away sooooo much stuff and then dh came to get us and we went through the storage building then too. Well, I have been here since 2006 and believe me we have accumilated (Sp?) too much stuff since moving here.

Have fun in your new house!! This problem is more common than you think :)
 
Thanks. :sunny: I've started selling some of kaileys old stuff on craigslist. I'm starting to really like the money instead of the toys. Kailey didn't even care that I sold her Dora fairy doll. She actually wanted me to give it away free. But I wasn't going to do that. I sold it way cheap though.
 
I'm 48 and I would have a serious problem with anybody "making" me throw something away I want to keep, however well intentioned they were. :cussing: What generally happens when you grow up, is then you get old, and you die. :crazytongue: You're pretty young to be married and have kids these days, and a lot of your childhood was taken up with dealing with issues-maybe you need to have some kid stuff of your own? :scratch: My roommate was a foster kid and never had anything, he's pushing 60 and the Good Lord help anyone who touches the Gund Bear he got when he was 38. :hammer:
Anyway here is a nice link on Hoarding so folks can decide if they are just untidy or have a real psychological issue :sunny:
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/hoarding/DS00966
 
Ugh. I can't even click on your link, Red. I assume it has pics.

I am the complete opposite of a hoarder. In fact, I throw just about everything away that isn't nailed down, tied down, or taped down. I have nothing left of my childhood or hubby's except our birth certificates. I saved the boys' hair from their first haircuts and their teeth :laughing: That's it. An envie of hair and a small jar of teeth. Well, a few things from their first couple of years of school and every card they've ever given me but no first outfit or first toy or anything else of the sort.

My granny was a packrat. She even saved milk jugs. Not to reuse because she never reused them but just to have them "in case." Old newspapers too. Mother hoards plastic grocery bags. That's OK...if you actually reuse them!! And she must have something in every corner of her house. Drives me insane!! Uh, Mom. You know that fake basket of flowers you have sitting in the corner that is by the front door? Well, they are full of cat sh#$. You may want to just throw them out now.
 
Tiff dont feel bad...I am a 3rd generation packrat...not a hoarder I just dont like to get rid of gifts people have given me or things with sentimental value to me...my house is extremely tiny...but I am learning to slowly get rid of things..I never realized how many clothes I had until I went through all of them...I love to collect things...but I havent the room for some of my collections...my mom is the same way and so was my grandmother...actually I get it from both sides of my family....after my aunt Susie died last summer I could not believe the stuff she had...but right before she died we helped clean her house up so home health could come in...she told me she was embarassed for me to see how much stuff she had...I just hugged and told her it was okay because I had almost as much as she did and that helped ease her...my aunt worked for the salvaation army in my town and she got to go through all the donations of stuff before they put in the retail store and she could keep whatever she wanted...good lord you wouldnt believe all the awesome stuff she had....and of course at her estate sale I bought quite alot of it :laughing: To me it is hard to get rid of things that have lots of good memories attatched to them...but I am learning to!
Good Luck with your new house Tiff...I am so happy for you and your family!
 
NotDeadYet said:
completelyme said:
Ugh. I can't even click on your link, Red. I assume it has pics.
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No, its from the Mayo Clinic so it just has descriptions. I've got a great pic of somebody crushed to death under their hoarded stuff, if you'd like :sunny:
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LMAO!! Where do you find this stuff? :laughing:

I just realized I like some hoarding. Fart hoarding. If hubby would just learn to hoard his farts all to himself...
 
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