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I met someone yesterday and had a long, very interesting convo with him. From religion (he was in Seminary school for a few years) to books, movies, sci-fi, science - whew - I think I met my mental soulmate!!! :laughing:

Anyway, I was telling him I am always approached for a cig when I'm out, and how I respond with "They sell them here" and how these people (who have usually been gambling themselves) get so affronted that I don't comply and give them what they want and how it upsets me that they try to act like I'm the bad guy!!! :nono: :cussing:

See, I had been approached earlier by a guy who had offered to buy a cig from me the last time I was there. When I said my usual to people I don't know "They sell them here" (friends know they can ask for anything & if it's in my power to, I'll give it to them) anyway, he responded he didn't have enough money. I figured I'd made myself clear, but he plopped down in a chair between me and a woman I chat with and said "Well...?" I responded with "So what are you offering" since he HAD offered to buy one. That's when he said he had NO money, turned to my friend, and was immediately given a cig by her, then he turned to me, and as snarky as can be, said (You have a nice day, maam"

I blew - loudly (and when I get ticked I can get LOUD!!!) I said, oh HELL no, don't even offer to BUY a cig when you have NO money - wtf is that??? :cussing:

See, now I'M the bad guy for sticking to my principles - mooches get NO play from me!!!

I told my friend that she made ME look like a jerk by giving him a cig, and she responded that she can't ever know what another persons situation is. I told her that since I get hit up for a cig at least once everytime I go out by people who obviously (well, it's obvious to me) have a prepared little speech that is usually successful (9 out of 10 will say "Keep your money, here's a cig as opposed to the lower success rate of just asking) that I have a pretty good idea that they are users/mooches.

Anyway, this guy shows up, asks, and I ask him if he really can't recall our last conversation (geez, how many people is he hitting up that he can't even recall me being so loud and calling him out 2 weeks later??? :scratch: ) anyway, I noticed he was there during shift change, so no clerk was available, and I remembered he did that last time too. I watched him ask someone else, then i saw him outside gathering his things (we aren't allowed to bring in bags/backpacks - ty to terrorists) and as soon as I could, I reported him to the clerk.

Their policy is they 86 these mooches, but they rely on us to say something, and most people don't bother.

Anyway, he (my new friend) asked me why it bothered me so much & then he reminded me of something I already knew - they can't have any power to upset you unless you LET them. And he said I was a generous person, so why did I not give the cig, or just say no and go back to whatever I was doing.

I thought about it a bit, and realized that 2 events a few years ago, where I was used/taken advantage of/ridiculed/and humiliated had changed me - that I used to give, give, give until then.

Realizing that actually helps. Now I can choose to give, or say no, and then forget about it and not get upset, YAY!!!

Anyway, my point (yes, after all that, there really IS a point!!! :laughing: ) is that we respond to people based on our experiences, and that some people tend to get under our skins - BUT - we have the choice to respond (attempt to correct them) or ig them, and I choose ig - I have better things to do than to allow someone I don't know to raise my blood pressure/upset me/ruin my day!!!
 
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Hey I think we are our own boss to do as we see fit and love everyone just not like their ways.


I would ig. :wave:
 
Get some Gitanes Brunes (the ones with no filter) next time he asks for a cig give him one of those. He'll never ask you again :laughing:
 
tharedhead said:
Get some Gitanes Brunes (the ones with no filter) next time he asks for a cig give him one of those. He'll never ask you again :laughing:
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My parents went to Europe and brought those back (I remember they started with a G, so I think that's what they were??? :scratch:) when I was a kid - I snuck a few and boy, was I sorry!!! :cry: :crazytongue: :whistle:
 
sweepyhead said:
Is there a way to put certain members on ignore? I searched and couldn't find this function.
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I never get pm's(not the kind from other people) :cry: but in my infinite boredom I feel I must know how to do this! :laughing: Surely, you're not being harassed and harangued from your forum fight? :whistle: I really better start thinking b4 I post. God knows, I don't do it b4 I speak. I might get shot in a pm! :fired:
 
amyshulk said:
I met someone yesterday and had a long, very interesting convo with him. From religion (he was in Seminary school for a few years) to books, movies, sci-fi, science - whew - I think I met my mental soulmate!!! :laughing:

Anyway, I was telling him I am always approached for a cig when I'm out, and how I respond with "They sell them here" and how these people (who have usually been gambling themselves) get so affronted that I don't comply and give them what they want and how it upsets me that they try to act like I'm the bad guy!!! :nono: :cussing:

See, I had been approached earlier by a guy who had offered to buy a cig from me the last time I was there. When I said my usual to people I don't know "They sell them here" (friends know they can ask for anything & if it's in my power to, I'll give it to them) anyway, he responded he didn't have enough money. I figured I'd made myself clear, but he plopped down in a chair between me and a woman I chat with and said "Well...?" I responded with "So what are you offering" since he HAD offered to buy one. That's when he said he had NO money, turned to my friend, and was immediately given a cig by her, then he turned to me, and as snarky as can be, said (You have a nice day, maam"

I blew - loudly (and when I get ticked I can get LOUD!!!) I said, oh HELL no, don't even offer to BUY a cig when you have NO money - wtf is that??? :cussing:

See, now I'M the bad guy for sticking to my principles - mooches get NO play from me!!!

I told my friend that she made ME look like a jerk by giving him a cig, and she responded that she can't ever know what another persons situation is. I told her that since I get hit up for a cig at least once everytime I go out by people who obviously (well, it's obvious to me) have a prepared little speech that is usually successful (9 out of 10 will say "Keep your money, here's a cig as opposed to the lower success rate of just asking) that I have a pretty good idea that they are users/mooches.

Anyway, this guy shows up, asks, and I ask him if he really can't recall our last conversation (geez, how many people is he hitting up that he can't even recall me being so loud and calling him out 2 weeks later??? :scratch: ) anyway, I noticed he was there during shift change, so no clerk was available, and I remembered he did that last time too. I watched him ask someone else, then i saw him outside gathering his things (we aren't allowed to bring in bags/backpacks - ty to terrorists) and as soon as I could, I reported him to the clerk.

Their policy is they 86 these mooches, but they rely on us to say something, and most people don't bother.

Anyway, he (my new friend) asked me why it bothered me so much & then he reminded me of something I already knew - they can't have any power to upset you unless you LET them. And he said I was a generous person, so why did I not give the cig, or just say no and go back to whatever I was doing.

I thought about it a bit, and realized that 2 events a few years ago, where I was used/taken advantage of/ridiculed/and humiliated had changed me - that I used to give, give, give until then.

Realizing that actually helps. Now I can choose to give, or say no, and then forget about it and not get upset, YAY!!!

Anyway, my point (yes, after all that, there really IS a point!!! :laughing: ) is that we respond to people based on our experiences, and that some people tend to get under our skins - BUT - we have the choice to respond (attempt to correct them) or ig them, and I choose ig - I have better things to do than to allow someone I don't know to raise my blood pressure/upset me/ruin my day!!!
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I still would have called him out :laughing: But I get your point. I like to call it "not allowing people to rent space in your head." If someone is rude to me, disrespectful, being a trashy cig bum, etc. I have a tendency to be a bit on the nasty side right back. Even more so than they were to me. I guess to maybe make them arrive @ the conclusion that messing with me was NOT a smart idea. Afterall, I don't go around starting trouble with total strangers or anyone for that matter.

Lately, I've been biting my tongue(off{with the exception of a few days ago})and smiling right through my ire. My face feels like it's on fire but it's got a big ass smile on it so that must count for something, right? And instead of repeating the incident in my head over and over again, I attempt to let it go. It's been working for the most part.

I should add that a smoker knows the unspoken rule among all smokers...you do not bum a cig unless you are in dire straits and/or on your way to the store to buy yourself some and/or have no intention on bumming more after said bummed smoke is smoked. At almost $5 a pack it is just not a good idea to allow many to bum. Even my best girlfriend knows she better be on her way to getting herself some if she has to bum from me.
 
amyshulk said:
My parents went to Europe and brought those back (I remember they started with a G, so I think that's what they were??? :scratch:) when I was a kid - I snuck a few and boy, was I sorry!!! :cry: :crazytongue: :whistle:
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You may have had the old style Gauloises-those were worse, if that is possible. But they have quit making those.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gauloises
Traditional Gauloises were originally short, wide, unfiltered and made with dark tobaccos from Syria and Turkey which gave off a strong and distinctive smell. Some non-smokers compared this to burning tar or the smoke of what King James VI of Scotland (and I of England), in A Counterblast to Tobacco, called "that pit which is bottomless".
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completelyme said:
I still would have called him out :laughing: But I get your point. I like to call it "not allowing people to rent space in your head." If someone is rude to me, disrespectful, being a trashy cig bum, etc. I have a tendency to be a bit on the nasty side right back. Even more so than they were to me. I guess to maybe make them arrive @ the conclusion that messing with me was NOT a smart idea. Afterall, I don't go around starting trouble with total strangers or anyone for that matter.

Lately, I've been biting my tongue(off{with the exception of a few days ago})and smiling right through my ire. My face feels like it's on fire but it's got a big ass smile on it so that must count for something, right? And instead of repeating the incident in my head over and over again, I attempt to let it go. It's been working for the most part.

I should add that a smoker knows the unspoken rule among all smokers...you do not bum a cig unless you are in dire straits and/or on your way to the store to buy yourself some and/or have no intention on bumming more after said bummed smoke is smoked. At almost $5 a pack it is just not a good idea to allow many to bum. Even my best girlfriend knows she better be on her way to getting herself some if she has to bum from me.
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Oooh, I like that a lot better "not allowing people to rent space in your head." may I borrow it? :laughing:

I really do try NOT to judge others, but when they impose on me/confront/respond to me, then they bring themselves into my "orbit" and then it makes me really notice them/their actions. So seeing someone gamble for hours and then have the audacity to try to bum off me when they could have bought their own, or someone like that mooch, who has NO intention of ever buying his own - I call them OPC smokers {Other People's Cigs) - wee, when they try to make ME the heavy when I refuse to be used...

Well, even though I KNOW did nothing wrong, the fact that I'm treated like I did (again, those events from a few years ago rearing their UGLY heads :nono:) sparks my "righteous" anger and then I DO behave badly - but no more!!! :headbang:

As you said, they are NOT allowed to rent space in my head anymore - well, just as soon as I can stop getting angry even while just talking about it, lmao!!! :whistle:

As for biting your tongue? I hate hate HATE misinformation, and attempt to correct misconceptions, and most people don't take that lightly. I also tend to try to be a "fixer" - it's who I am - and I am aware those traits make many people dislike me.

I once answered a gripe post (not here) with a work-around solution for the interim (yeah right - like they were EVER going to solve the problem/do a decent upgrade as promised for YEARS) anyway, she responded that if she wanted anything other than the promised solution, she'd have asked her DH for help. I got her drift and apologized. :laughing:

My new friend is like that too - he said his wife told him once "I asked for the time, not how to make a watch" lmao!!! :laughing: :crazytongue:


SA has been panned as a boring site by sheeple that believe the bs they are spoonfed, and that MUST love the drama they help incite - they don't get that we are here to SWEEP, not fight!!! :nono:

This site is perfect for us sweepers, having all the tools to help us quickly and efficiently enter & track our sweeps, and the comments/forums are great, with members helping each other with trivia/upc's/site problems/fullfillment problems/etc., but I'd hate to see them devolve into catfights/backbiting/etc as I witnessed elsewhere, so even though it's hard completelyme, please don't let those people rent space in your head!!!

My version of "Can't we all just get along" :laughing:
 
tharedhead said:
amyshulk said:
My parents went to Europe and brought those back (I remember they started with a G, so I think that's what they were??? :scratch:) when I was a kid - I snuck a few and boy, was I sorry!!! :cry: :crazytongue: :whistle:
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You may have had the old style Gauloises-those were worse, if that is possible. But they have quit making those.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gauloises
Traditional Gauloises were originally short, wide, unfiltered and made with dark tobaccos from Syria and Turkey which gave off a strong and distinctive smell. Some non-smokers compared this to burning tar or the smoke of what King James VI of Scotland (and I of England), in A Counterblast to Tobacco, called "that pit which is bottomless".
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That's them, thanks!!! They were harsh!!! :nono: :cry:
 
amyshulk said:
This site is perfect for us sweepers, having all the tools to help us quickly and efficiently enter & track our sweeps, and the comments/forums are great, with members helping each other with trivia/upc's/site problems/fullfillment problems/etc., but I'd hate to see them devolve into catfights/backbiting/etc as I witnessed elsewhere, so even though it's hard completelyme, please don't let those people rent space in your head!!!
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And I can actually see the site :crazytongue:
 
sweepyhead said:
Boy, I hope you guys win some Nicoderm. :whistle:
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LMAO!! I eat that crap for dessert :laughing:


Amy, I get ya. My torment is in real life. Like, an unhappy Wal-Mart employee :laughing: Or my gyne's receptionist. Don't treat me like crap because you've had a bad day or someone shit in your shoes. And then treat me like I was the one who did something really messed up.

If feel if more people treated others the way they want to be treated the world would be a much friendlier place. And I may actually like people :laughing:
 
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